Disclaimer: This post is written by Robin and reflects my opinions and my opinions only and not necessarily those of Kim or Sylvie and Grumpy Sheep, Happy Llama as a whole.
Anna, of the YouTube channel, AnnaKnitter, was mentioning a non-profit, pro-life foundation she works for in eastern Germany which supports new mothers. To use an older, outdated phrase, new ‘unwed’ mothers. These new moms receive a pair of socks for their new babies to encourage them in their new role. Anna put a call out for knitters to make some socks in newborn size using natural fibres such as cotton or wool.
I remember feeling so unsure of myself when my son was born and I was not only mature (38 years old) but I had all the support in the world. Yet I still waited for that instruction manual to come out with the placenta. I was ecstatic yet worried about screwing up. Empathizing with these moms and babies, I wanted to lend a hand and knit socks. Lots of socks.
At first I thought I would knit four or five pairs and mail them off. But these wee socks are kind of like eating potato chips! I had to change my goal to a dozen. Then I thought I would knit and mail the socks in one-dozen batches. I completed the first batch and posted them three days ago. These socks were knit with yarns leftover from my and my son’s socks. Fond memories played in my mind as I knit these socks for these wee babes new to this world.
When I posted this picture on InstaGram, a woman I know to be a very kind person and an avid sock knitter wrote to me wondering why she hadn’t heard of this sock knitting request. I provided her with the information and her reply was that she could not support this charity as it is pro-life.
I replied to her that I am pro-choice, too. I feel that there are different circumstances such as health, both physical and mental, that may lean towards abortion as the best option. It also may depend on how the baby was conceived. If it were by violent means, the idea of a live birth and possible adoption may be too much for the pregnant woman. These are choices I believe in and I think a woman and her control over her own body need to be respected and protected. I also told her that, as a woman who had to ‘practice’ for fifteen years before finally being able to conceive, I lean quite heavily on the hope that most will choose life.
The main thing that stuck me was that making socks for newborn babies is not the place to choose a side, for or against. The babies are already here. It doesn’t matter how they got here and these new moms need hope and help. They have a tough road ahead because they chose life and had their babies. I suspect they have been ostracized by their families and communities for becoming pregnant in the first place, let alone choosing to go to term. And if they give their child up for adoption? Oh, the heart-ache…
Whether I am pro-choice or pro-life is irrelevant. A decision has already been made. These babies are coming or are already here. They are being brought into this world by new frightened moms, many/some/all of whom may have been pro-choice and opted for life. It is not for me to judge how they got here but to support them now that they are here.